Four in ten new fathers dad shamed for being involved in their babies’ lives, according to new research

Nearly four in ten new fathers claim they have been “dad shamed” because they take an active role in their child’s life, according to a new study.

A nationwide study of British men who have started a family within the last two years, revealed 38 percent of men said they have been made to feel less “manly” by others for being a “hands on dad”.


According to the study some of the dads polled have been ridiculed for carrying a baby in a carrier, pushing a pram or taking shared parental leave.

Perhaps as a consequence, 72 percent of British dads feel there just isn’t enough support for new fathers, with 84 percent believing the impact of childbirth on dads goes widely unrecognised.

In a recent, high-profile example of “dad shaming”, 007-star Daniel Craig was called out last year by GMB host Piers Morgan, who questioned his masculinity for carrying his newborn baby in a carrier. His comments about the actor prompted a storm of outrage amongst parents and non-parents alike, with many people criticising Morgan’s views on “manhood”.

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When asked where this pressure came from, 40 percent felt judged by family members, 32 percent by friends, and more than a third felt pressure from society as a whole, with one in ten told to simply “get a grip” when they spoke about how hard they were finding parenthood.

Little wonder then, perhaps, that more than half (55 percent) of UK dads admitted they didn’t talk to anyone about their new baby struggles, suffering instead in silence.

The study also revealed more than a third (34 percent) believe they experienced a form of postnatal depression, following the birth of their baby, with a third admitting they had found it hard to bond with their baby.

This research shows that dads are under a supreme amount of pressure once their baby is born that unfortunately they don’t seem to be given the tools or time to adjust to parenthood.

The research found that – despite being made to feel ashamed of engaging with their newborns – 71 percent of British fathers felt playing with baby helped with bonding, 66 percent said talking to them brought them closer, and 62 percent said babywearing as much as possible helped.

Despite their struggles, the survey of 1,000 new dads found that 92 percent said they wouldn’t change being a dad for anything in the world, and 96 percent claiming that being a dad was the best experience ever.

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Dr Rosie Knowles, GP and founder of Carrying Matters commented on the findings, “these figures make such disturbing reading: babies and children thrive when their fathers are engaged and loving parents, responsive and nurturing. Dads play a particularly special part in creating secure attachment relationships for their children and it’s very clear that dads long to be more involved with their babies but feel ill-equipped to do so and fear being judged for being hands-on fathers. These needs addressing; for the sake of the whole family and the wider society.

“One way dads can encourage the feeling of bonding with their baby is to spend more time just holding them: the loving close contact releases the hormone oxytocin that helps reduce stress and anxiety in both baby and parent. Dads feel this too, not just mums. The more they have the opportunity to hold and cuddle their child the more likely they are to feel these essential bonds forming, the more their baby will trust them, and the more their confidence in themselves as fathers will rise. Using a simple, comfy and safe baby carrier is a fantastic way to keep babies close to their parents, dads included, while giving parents their hands back and allowing them to explore the world together. “

*The research of 1,000 men who have had a baby in the past two years was commissioned by polling firm Ginger Research on behalf of Ergobaby in April 2019

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